Satisfaction After Revenge: Why Is It A Trap And How to Avoid It?
For the past week , I was brimming with the feeling of getting revenge.
It is 09:30 AM of Friday morning and my head is occupied with avenging the people who hurt me and my pride. Burst my anger out showing those people how they dared to talk behind my back against me. Looking for and hoping for the moment, when those people suffer insult and disrespect and hurt their pride which I had felt.
But should be it? What after that when I have my ego fed? Should I let my anger out like Daenerys Targaryen? How will it affect me other than momentous happiness?
I and of course you, have heard people saying revenge makes you hollow. I know clearly that if a human can do anything for the first time, they have the power to do it again.
So, I do not want to be part of this rat race of taking revenge and always burning myself just to let another feel insulted.
I need to learn two things here:
Why do I want to take revenge?
How to overcome this feeling?
It is 09:45 AM now and I will write the remaining part after I get the answers to the above questions.
It is 04:50 PM on Saturday. Today I read an article in the Washington Post that answers my (or ours) questions. I came to know that revenge was a sort of defense mechanism when laws did not exist. Revenge kept one from harming the other because of the fear of retaliation.
Now, we want to take revenge because we believe that it will make us feel better, but it is the opposite. In a study by Chester, people take revenge thinking it would make them feel better, but it makes them feel worse. I can vouch for it because I remember serving my anger in high school. I got the chance and took my shot. Made my enemy embarrassed in front of the whole class. I felt like a person who no one would dare to mess with again. But when I got home, sadness took me. I was the worst person in this whole world. The next day in school I could not even look into my friend’s eyes.
I know you want to let out your anger.
No doubt, you deserve justice for something wrong and unfair that caused you harm. I believe you deserve every right to do so.
And I do believe you deserve happiness and freedom from pain in the past.
Those who did bad to you will eventually be taken over by their guilt and if they do not stop hurting others then karma exists for a reason.
